I am gay!
Man
is a masochist by nature for he always keeps himself preoccupied with some apprehensions
and dreads the very idea of things going what the world term as “out of control”.
With different eras came different anxieties. In earlier times people spent
time worrying to have male child and with the birth of a girl child started the
pressure of accumulating enough for dowry and finding a suitor. As societies
advanced people feared the thought of their children falling in love and took
every measure to preclude the nightmare of them eloping. In this 21st
century people have managed to gather one more of its kind. They fear any
possible sexual divergence of their kids.
It is taken and expected that a person’s sexual
inclination is towards someone from the opposite gender- a very mechanical way
of looking at relationships. The logic is flawed here for gender is designated
based on physical aspects and attraction is governed by feelings that are
engendered through complex processes happening in the brain. When it comes to
feelings it is the mind that governs ones conduct and not the body. This call
to revise our academics for what an ox is to a cow may not always hold true in
case of what a man is to a woman.
Why
human beings involve in relationships? Putting it in other words, what is the
basis of any relationship? Man throughout his life apart from material
aspirations look for three things in life: love, happiness and peace. Every
person yearns to be loved by someone. As a kid he seeks for parental love and
as an adult he looks for that love through companionship. Again love or
affection is something that comes out through the mind, so it doesn’t changes it’s
meaning depending on a person’s physical elements. Adulthood adds one more
dimension to desires- physical love/pleasure (in addition to platonic love)
which also is manifestation of emotions and thus it does not abide by the
boundaries of gender.
In the
world there do exist the worst form of mental torture: pressure to be a person
who you are not. Owing to the attitude of the societies towards people with
different sexual preferences who have inclinations towards same gender or both
genders, these people start hiding their identity from everybody they know. It
is equivalent to committing suicide as you suppress your original self from being
exhibited. On top of it they put efforts to act like and be a person as it
would be acceptable to others. And the most awful aspect of this act is that
one feels comfortable if someone not related closely knows about your
inclinations but not the closest ones.
It is
sad that the entities whom most cultures refer to LGBTQ who despite being an
integral part of human society since civilizations have to strive to make way
for their acceptance. They battle to prove themselves normal. It’s an
assumption of an individual that whatever is in majority is normal and so rest
everything qualifies as abnormal. With that context there is nothing like
divergence here, it’s just people don’t want to accept what is out of their
range of understanding and shy away by attaching negative connotations to the issues.
It’s a general tendency to claim only those things right which one wants to
accept wilfully and attribute things to be ignominious which one deliberately doesn’t
want to accept and understand.
This kind
of matters adduces the level of maturity in terms of thought process a society
as a whole possesses. It also reflects the state of mind of existing social
order. Societies should work towards developing their citizens with a receptive
mind. Flexibility of one’s mind determines how much a person thereby a society
as a whole is refined and refinement is all what speaks about development in
all spheres of that environment.
Lastly, nobody has a say or
right to question anyone’s acceptability. Never try to prove yourself to
anybody and begin with becoming acceptable to one’s own self first and be proud
to say: “Yes, I am gay”!
amazing blog <3
ReplyDeletebut its India and its very difficult for Indian people to accept the lgbt group and also its difficult for lgbt people because some people will try to use gay people as toy so its really difficult for one to be open in the society and also it will be difficult for gay people to trust anyone especially in India.
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